Single parent dating another single parent
"Read the e-mail again in the morning, and make sure it says exactly what you mean." Don't be snide, angry, or sarcastic.Try for a pleasant and courteous tone even if you don't feel that way.Then one day, my best friend and co-parent was gone from my life. Okay, that was an exaggeration -- but it's how it felt at the time, and it prompted me into action.Though I had always paid lip service to the "It takes a village" idea, it turned out that, while there might have been some "village" people out there, we had been too wrapped up in our own lives to get to know them. I was driving through a bad snowstorm with my little boys. I decided to check in every night with another single mom. This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences. Forgive the friends and in-laws who you felt deserted you.But no matter how right I felt I was, deep down in my heart I knew: Being in constant fight mode was horrible for my kids, and it was making me even more miserable.
It is normal to feel sad and lonely if you don’t have a boy- or girlfriend.Then I made a conscious effort to invite friends over for dinner, ask a neighbor to help me move my couch, and chat with the other moms at drop-off.Slowly, my sense that I had a contagious disease lifted, and I found myself expanding my definition of what makes a family.When my divorce was new, talking with my ex was painful.We were angry at each other, and, let's face it, looking for ways to hurt each other.